How to Help your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage

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"From internationally celebrated psychologist Stuart Shanker, a revolutionary new understanding of stress as the key that unlocks kids'--and parents'--most troubling behaviour. There is no such thing as a bad kid. According to world-renowned psychologist Stuart Shanker, even the most frustrating, annoying or troubling behaviour has an explanation. That means there is a way to make things better. Shanker's research has shown that for every child and every adult the ability to thrive--to complete tasks, form friendships, learn, and even love--depends on being able to self-regulate. In the past twenty years neurological research has been showing us a lot about brain states, and what is clear now is that the ability to self-regulate your response to stress is central to all of them. There are dramatic consequences to looking at a child's behaviour through the lens of self-regulation. Above all it discards the knee-jerk reaction that a child who is having trouble paying attention, controlling his impulses, or who gives up easily on a difficult task, is somehow weak or lacks self-discipline or is not making a great enough effort to apply himself. According to Shanker, the ability to self-regulate is limited, though. Like a tank of gas, it eventually dwindles, leaving a kid--or an adult--simply unable to control his or her impulses. That is, misbehaving kids aren't choosing to be difficult. They literally can't help themselves. And what draws down our reserves of self-reg? Stress. Stress of all kinds, from social anxiety to an uncomfortable chair. Control the stress, and the kid can control himself."--Provided by publisher.
Publisher: Toronto : Viking, 2016
ISBN: 9780670068296
Branch Call Number: 155.41825 SHA 2016
Characteristics: 307 pages : illustrations


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ontherideau Jul 20, 2018

Worthwhile reading for any person who interacts with children, from toddlers to teens.

Jul 16, 2018

This book has lots of information on the brain and how it connects with actions as well as emotions. Very informative.

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