The Sound of Gravel

The Sound of Gravel

A Memoir

Large Print - 2016
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This is a riveting, deeply affecting true story of one girl's coming-of-age in a polygamist family. Recounted from the innocent and hopeful perspective of a child, The Sound of Gravel is an intimate, gripping tale of triumph, courage, and resilience.
Publisher: Farmington Hills, Michigan : Thorndike Press, 2016, c2015
Edition: Large print edition
ISBN: 9781410488541
Branch Call Number: LP 289.3 WAR 2016
Characteristics: 513 pages


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JCLSarahZ Aug 11, 2020

This is a must read. Never has a memoir made such an impression on me. I could not put this book down, until I had to put this book down. A true story about an American family living a polygamist life in Mexico. Rife with abuse and neglect, Ruth and her siblings face new horrors daily. It was interesting and thought provoking and overwhelmingly sad.

Jul 26, 2020

This is the memoir of a childhood spent in a polygamist cult in Mexico with a dysfunctional mother and abusive stepfather. The family's struggle for survival was a story that will captivate the reader from page one.

This will be one of favorite pics for this year for sure. Ruth Wariner writes of her childhood growing up in rural Mexico in a dilapidated house without proper plumbing or electricity. It's a tragic story of polygamy at it's worse. The church teaches that women can only get to heaven by being in a polygamous marriage and birthing as many children as they possibly can. Often, aside from the many other problems with this believe, all these children cannot be provided for, and cared for properly and are often victims of all forms of abuse. Wariner is a first time author with this book, however, her writing just flows and I could hardly put the book down.

Jan 12, 2020

Wow! This book is powerful! I could not put it down because I was in awe of Ruth's strength, but I equally wanted to throw the book across the room at the actions of her mother and step-father. It is difficult to read the experiences of someone else's trauma so vividly, but it is powerful and beautiful as well.

May 17, 2018

Powerful and important story. That being said, the writing and editing were both very weak. The text was tediously descriptive and monotonous, with lots of areas in which a good editor could have really helped. The writing was noticeably bad enough to detract from an otherwise enthralling and horrifying story. Many scenes, based on Ruth’s young childhood, felt far too detailed and fact-based to have been accurately remembered. Repetition was a common thread, with many paragraphs going over and over the same information.

The end scene, when Ruth prepares to get married, felt like a lackluster fairy tale that cheapened the otherwise strong message about the horrors that a misogynistic culture enacted on her family. Instead of gaining insight into Ruth’s experience raising her brothers and sisters on her own, the reader is offered a rushed description of her monogamous husband and floral arrangements as a consolation prize for having made it through hundreds of pages of details on the family’s abusive upbringing. Ruth’s brother Matt, positioned as a low-key hero throughout the book, is revealed to have become a polygamist himself, one of many reasons the outcome of the book felt unsatisfying.

I am empowered by Ruth’s strength and resilience, but wouldn’t recommend this book.

ArapahoeKayla Mar 15, 2018

An incredible memoir I could not put down. So shocking you can't help getting attached to the author and her family and hanging on her every word to see what happens to them all.

Jan 22, 2018

I highly recommend listening to this on audio, as the author reads it. However, having the author read it does add to the intensity of the story. Overall, a wonderful read on family and human resiliency.

Jan 03, 2018

Yes to what srbosman wrote in Oct 2016, apt commentary. Strong triggers for FatherGod and HusbandTyrant oppression. This child has remarkable resilience to come out of growing-up as such a good person. Worth a read, lots of action and interaction between kinfolk.

In her memoir Ruth Wariner recounts her childhood growing up in a polygamous community in Mexico. While the book can be very dark at times, Ruth's love and devotion to her siblings shine through. This is a quick read, but a very troubling topic. The teachings of Ruth's church encouraged polygamy and many of these families were very large, but poor. An interesting read and eye opening read.

JCLColleenO Jul 06, 2017

The author gives a candid account of her early childhood & teenage years growing up in a polygamist colony. This book gives readers a behind the scenes look into the trials & tribulations of the people living polygamy’s struggle to remain faithful. The reader develops a relationship with Ruthie through the challenges she endures with her step-father & taking care of the needs of her younger siblings. This is an inspiring tale of a young girl finding her place in the world & overcoming the situations that threaten to hold her back.

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