Real Marriage

Real Marriage

The Truth About Sex, Friendship & Life Together

eBook - 2012
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Most marriage books assume the author did it right. Most marriage books barely mention friendship. Most marriage books use "intimacy" as code for "sex." This is not one of those books.

In Real Marriage, Pastor Mark Driscoll and his wife, Grace, share how they have struggled and how they have found healing through the power of the only reliable source: the Bible. They believe friendship is fundamental to marriage but not easy to maintain. So they offer practical advice on how to make your spouse your best friend - and keep it that way. And they know from experience that sex-related issues need to be addressed directly.

Five chapters are dedicated to answering questions like:

Should I confess my pre-marital sexual sin to my spouse? Is it okay to have a "work spouse"? What does the Bible say about masturbation and oral sex?

Stunningly honest and vulnerable, Real Marriage is like a personal counseling session with a couple you cannot surprise, you cannot shock into silence, who will respond to every question with wisdom, humility, and realism.

If you want to have a long-lasting, fulfilling marriage you should read this book. Wrestle with this book. Pray over this book. Share this book. And discover how God can use it to change your life.


"If you're married or plan to be someday, do yourself a favor and read every page of this book." --DRS. LES & LESLIE PARROTT Founders of and authors of Love Talk

"Whether engaged, newlywed, or veteran, Real Marriage will serve as an invaluable resource. I highly recommend this book." --ANDY STANLEY author of The Grace of God and Senior Pastor, North Point Community Church

"One of my greatest concerns is that culture is going to continually define and redefine what marriage is and is not, and the church is going to simply sit on the sidelines and react rather than seeking to actually become proactive by confidently teaching what the Bible has to say about it. That is why I am so thankful that Mark and Grace Driscoll wrote this book. Their approach to marriage, its benefits and challenges are transparent and challenging and I honestly believe that every married couple who will work through what they lead us through in this book will not just merely have a marriage that survives in this world but rather thrives in it." -- PERRY NOBLE Senior Pastor, NewSpring Church

"Our thanks to Mark and Grace Driscoll who have served this generation well by tastefully but boldly addressing the real issues facing real marriages. Taking the unchanging truth of God's word and sprinkling in is the story of God's mercy in their own marriage they have filled every chapter with real helpfulness. This book is powerful, biblical, practical and healing for marriages that hurt. My wife and our adult children read it to great profit." -- DR. JAMES MACDONALD Senior Pastor, Harvest Bible Chapel and Bible teacher for Walk in the Word

Publisher: Nashville : Thomas Nelson, c2012
ISBN: 9781400203840
Characteristics: 1 online resource ; 272 pages
Additional Contributors: Driscoll, Grace
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Feb 26, 2016

You know what... I actually really enjoyed this one. I know it is a controversial book and that Mark Driscoll has not been doing so great professionally lately. But I didn't know all of that when I started reading, and I actually really liked this one. I liked the honesty. I liked that he and Grace didn't hold back when they talked about sex. And I didn't mind the way they wrote about women and their role in marriage. I didn't find it misogynistic. A lot of the complaints I've seen online are taken out of context or have a meaning added to them that they did not say. Is it a perfect book on the topic of marriage? No, absolutely not. Don't let this be the only Christian book on marriage and sex that you read. Read one written by someone who had something of a functioning marriage as well. I enjoyed The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy and Kathy Keller, for example. Mark and Grace struggled for MANY years. In awful ways. And they both came to the marriage with a lot of sexual baggage (as many people do). I think that's why I liked their unique and honest perspective on marriage and what they experienced. I LOVED the open and blunt discussion of sex. I loved the chapter on the impact of coming into marriage having experienced some kind of sexual assault. I loved the chapter on porn and how it affects our culture. These are things MANY MANY people are experiencing and I don't think silence is doing anyone any favors. It was a valuable read for me. I'd recommend it for anyone who wants a harsh, blunt look at marriage or sex when it isn't going well and when we realize we aren't perfect and can't pretend to be prefect anymore.

barcelona1987 Jun 24, 2012

Provided the confirmation as to what makes a good marriage. I found it helpful and I liked the references to the bible.

Apr 24, 2012

The authors spent half the book on sex in marriage. In my opinion, more on friendship and life together would be better.

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